I’m a fake numberer
I was out on the weekend with some friends socializing and having a few drinks. I met a seemingly nice and interesting guy through a mutual friend and after a short while of talking, he had the nerve to ask for my phone number, directly after I had just told the story about moving to the UK to be with my boyfriend!
What would you do in the situation?
If the guy was sincerely interested in friendship and nothing more, I didn’t buy it. But if he was, what I did next was kind of cruel. Truth be told I wasn’t interested in his friendship or anything else beyond those few minutes of conversation.
I first tried to weasel out of the situation by saying “Oh you know, maybe I’ll see you here again… I’m here often enough” which was, of course, a big fat lie.
When that and saying I had lost my phone wasn’t obvious enough and he insisted, I put a fake name and number in his phone.
What is it with guys and collecting phone numbers anyways? I have a feeling it’s associated with pride and feeling superior to other nearby males. This also leads me to wonder what percentage of women give out fake numbers or use other tactics in order to avoid being brutally honest and potentially bruising someone’s ego.
Guys, have you ever been fake numbered?
Women, do you tell the truth or do you lie to avoid hurting their feelings?
I’ve never been fake numbered but this does remind me of a time several years a go when I was out with a bunch of friends and one of the girls in our group attracted the attention of this really wierd guy. I mean, serious stalker material. Having failed to get her number by asking her, he then proceded to ask me for it. Obviously I Gave him a fake number… I felt it more diplomatic than hitting him and no one’s night was ruined.
I think what you should have done was ask why he wanted it and maybe said something like – I don’t think my boyfriend would be too pleased – to try and give him a second warning that you don’t want to give him it.
Once when bowling with friends + their friends, a guy who was in our party asked me to give him my number, as we both enjoyed football. I didn’t want to (the guy was a nut) but he kept insisting. Eventually I gave in. I brought my number up on my screen and read it out to him, with the last two digits incorrectly read out. The problem was he called it there and then to check, then chaos ensued from this nutjob. He had had a drink or two mind.
@Chris:
I did that too, and he said something like “Your boyfriend can hang out, too” which is what led me to believe it was nothing more than an ego boost with no real intention of calling. He ended up being a nut job and seemed like he was on drugs, then when he realized I was NOT INTERESTED he got into his car and drove off after probably too many drinks to do so legally.
For whatever reason, I just can’t bring myself to give someone a fake number. So even though I’m not interested at all, I give them my number anyway. There are rejection hotline numbers, though. I was given the Toronto one (NOT by a guy. By a girl I worked with, in case I ever needed it). Unfortunately, I doubt someone would call it from here. But there’s gotta be ones around here, too.
But honestly, what person gets someone’s number “just to be friends?” I mean, would he get a random guy’s number, too? I highly doubt it.
People do get people’s numbers just to be friends – I certainly have in the past, and know a slew of oddly disconnected people as a result.
I’ve been fake numbered once, but never entirely understood why – I’d been chatting to a girl I was (mildly) interested in, and was making my excuses to leave, when she asked if she could give me her number, so I accepted. At a loose end a few days later, I tried calling her – no dice… But I honestly don’t get why she gave me a number in the first place!
I have a question.
why didn’t you just said “thank you but no, thank you”.
That is what I always did in that case.
I stay nice and polite and say that I don’t feel like it.
At least, this is clear…
“thank you but no, thank you” ?
sorry, but i’m tired of us girls having to “play nice” when confronted by a pushy creep. it’s sad that we’re forced to be passive aggressive by fake numbering just to get away from these guys, especially when the result could be “chaos” as a result of being disingenuous…
no means no, guys! and if you’re too dumb or proud to take a hint, chances are we’d never date you anyways.
Btw I was looking for more technical feeds, but yours is a pretty cool one, even if it’s very canadian
No, I’ve never been given some fake information, I usually got it when women are obviously not interested in me.
But in my opinion it’s a mutual thing, you with probably not being interested enough in coping with this situation in an elegant way, and him, obviously not getting any of your hints. Both of you were not very sensitive, if I was the guy I’d rather get the truth for the sake of not twisting my mind for days. But that only fits if he was sensitive in any way…
You give them the Radio 1 flirt divert number (07770 774 914) where they will be subjected to public humiliation on the Scott Mills show.
http://www.bbc.co.uk/radio1/scottmills/flirtdivert.shtml
Hahahaha… I give fake numbers all the time… It’s just too tiring to go through all that explenation part of why not and ”i just want to be your friend”. But more often if I go out I tend to stick with my friends and enjoy my time with them, as I hate little chitty chats ending with ”you are so nice, can I have your telephone number”. I probably just don’t enjoy talking with random strangers and wasting my time.
Though I have never given a fake name, that is the bit I never understood..